Maximize Your Physical Presence: I was taking a walk a few days ago when a neighbor stopped me with a compliment that made my day: “I was just thinking about you—actually, I was trying to stand like you do! Your posture is always so good!” Her comment brought me back to a packed NYC dance studio years ago, where I first learned a life-changing lesson about posture, space, and confidence. When You Shrink, So Does Your Impact Back in my 20s, while training to become a professional actor, I squeezed my six-foot frame into a dance class crowded with leotard-clad …
Charismatic Presence and a Hunt For Morels
Charismatic Presence: A few nights ago, my friend Carrie Hensel sent a short text that instantly rearranged my plans: “I did a story about Morel mushroom hunting on CBS Detroit. It comes out tonight at 6pm. Come to Fraser’s Pub to watch it with me and some other pals.” When Carrie texts, people show up. And that’s exactly what a dozen of us did—gathered around a pub TV, drinks in hand, to watch her TV feature. But we weren’t just there for mushrooms. We were there because Carrie has that rare, magnetic quality I call Charismatic Presence. In fact, Charismatic …
Boost Engagement in Virtual Presentations
How to Get Your Zoom Audience to Turn On Their Cameras. Virtual presentation engagement tips. Have you ever delivered a virtual training, webinar, or talk and been met with… silence and blank screens? It’s disheartening. You log on, bring your energy, and instead of smiling faces, you’re greeted by a wall of muted, camera-off rectangles. It feels like speaking into a void. This lack of visibility is common in presentation-style webinars, where large audiences naturally default to hiding. But when it happens in smaller, interactive Zoom meetings or workshops, it’s not only awkward—it can be downright painful for presenters who …
The Power of Genuine Human Connection | Presence & Compassion in Action
Genuine human connection… I knew something was wrong the moment she crumpled into the plastic airport lounge chair across from me. Her eyes were red and swollen. A crumpled tissue trembled in her hand. But the real giveaway was the crisply folded American flag in a clear plastic case that rested on her lap like a sacred relic. Every now and then, she’d hug it like it was alive. Without knowing the full story, I could feel it: deep, aching grief. I told myself to give her space. Let her be. Don’t interfere. But then, she ended a phone call …
How to Handle Presentation Mishaps with Confidence
You’re mid-speech, in the zone—and then it happens. You trip, forget your next line, or knock your water over. Welcome to the world of presentation mishaps, where even seasoned pros take a tumble. Literally. I once fell off a raised stage in front of 300 dental professionals. While adjusting to new glasses and feeling fired up, I stepped too close to the edge and—boom! Down I went. Skirt flying, limbs flailing. Graceful? Not even close. The crowd gasped. I popped up, raised a hand, and said, “I’m good! Nothing’s broken—except maybe my ego!” We all laughed, the tension eased, and …
Why Every Speaker Should Write a Book
Why every speaker should write a book: In just a few weeks, I’ll be releasing my third book, Charismatic Presence: 5 Principles of Magnetic Presentations. It’s been a long and sometimes bumpy road getting here—but this book, born from 20+ years of coaching speakers and leaders, feels like the crown jewel of my trilogy. Writing while juggling my work as a keynote speaker, coach, and trainer wasn’t easy. There were days when inspiration flowed… and others when I wanted to throw my keyboard out the window. But I stayed the course. And now, it’s almost here. This milestone has me …
Managing Public Speaking Anxiety: Even Pros Get Nervous
When I Thought I Had 45 Minutes to Speak… But Actually Had 15 I just got back from an incredible weekend in San Diego, where I joined fellow authors and entrepreneurs at IndieBooks International’s Agency Rainmaker Forum. I laughed, I learned, I connected—and yes, I had my own little moment of self-inflicted chaos. Here’s how to manage public speaking anxiety. I Was Ready. Or So I Thought. As a proud faculty member, I was given a speaking slot to preview my upcoming book, Charismatic Presence: Five Principles for Magnetic Presentations (coming April 24th!). I’d been prepping for weeks. I even …
9 Ways To Make Your Storytelling Better
I recently had the honor of serving as a judge at the National Speakers Association of Michigan’s Last Story Standing competition. Eleven competitors took the stage, each putting their unique spin on the timeless art of storytelling. Their tales made us laugh, cry, think, and, above all, feel. As I watched and listened, I thought—probably for the millionth time—”Dang! There is nothing more powerful than a great story well told!” A Legacy of Storytelling If I love storytelling, it’s because it runs in my blood. My paternal grandmother, Yiayia Kelakos, was the designated griot—or storykeeper—in her small Greek village. She …
Listen and Really Hear
I rushed into a restaurant, flustered and overwhelmed, caught in the whirlwind of a hectic day, week, and month. As I approached the host stand, I quickly mentioned that I was meeting a friend for lunch. The host glanced at his seating chart and replied, “We haven’t seated any parties of one. It looks like you’re the first to arrive; why don’t I have your waitress show you to a table?” Without processing his words, I instinctively responded, “I’ll go look for my friend,” and bolted into the dining room, scanning for her familiar face. But after a quick look …
Harness The Pre-Performance Power of Music
Have you ever heard a song that instantly transported you back to a specific time, place, and feeling? That happened to me the other day while listening to a classic rock station in my car. Suddenly, Led Zeppelin’s “Black Dog” blasted through the speakers: “Hey hey mama, said the way you move, gonna make you sweat, gonna make you groove…” In an instant, I was no longer behind the wheel—I was a twelve-year-old kid again, gleefully slamming wooden spoons like drumsticks onto chair cushions in my childhood home. The years between then and now simply vanished. Music has that kind …
Like Peas & Carrots, Speaking & Leading Go Together
One of the most frequent questions I’m asked is, “Do high-level leaders really need to be great speakers?” As a presence, presentation, and performance coach with over two decades of experience working with senior executives, my answer is a resounding, “Yes!” Like peas and carrots, speaking and leading go hand in hand. If you want to lead your team at the highest level, you must bring an equally high level of poise, presence, and performance to your communications. That said, the better question might be: “Are high-level leaders always great speakers?” My answer? “No.” The Reality of Leadership and Communication …
Connect First, Speak Second
Tariq was next on the list to give a presentation during my day-long training. He was nervous but excited. As soon as his feet hit the podium, he began speaking, spitting out a barrage of words. Within thirty seconds, he was gasping for breath. Meanwhile, we, the audience, were struggling to keep up and connect with him. I stopped him mid-sentence. “Tariq,” I said, “I want you to stand in silence for a moment so you can get your adrenaline under control. Quietly observe the emotions you’re experiencing. Ground yourself by feeling the floor under your feet. Inhale … exhale. …
To Be A Better Leader, Be A Better Speaker
Ashok, a mid-level manager and new presence and presentation coaching client, shifted uncomfortably in his chair. “The problem,” he said, “is that in order to be promoted at my company, I need to be able to speak confidently in front of larger and larger groups. But even though I keep being offered opportunities to do it, I turn them down because I’m just so uncomfortable speaking in public. Last week, my boss suggested I give a presentation at a conference that’s coming up, to gain some visibility and credibility. But I found a way to squirm out of it, like …
For Presentation Mastery, Sharpen The Saw
When I was cast in a production of Claire Booth Luce’s play The Women at the San Diego Repertory Theater, I learned a lesson that has stuck with me ever since. Our cast of about 20 incredible women was guided by the visionary director Anne Bogart. Over the month-long rehearsal period, we fine-tuned every movement and choice to bring the script to life in alignment with Anne’s creative vision. By opening night, our performances were consistent and solid. But as often happens in life and on stage, things started to shift once the guiding force—Anne—left to direct another play in …
Create Your Last Lecture
Ron had a remarkable story. After buying and selling several successful businesses, he transitioned into consulting, eager to share the lessons he’d learned. However, his desire to create a signature keynote presentation left him stuck. “I can’t seem to pin down a specific topic,” Ron admitted during our first meeting. To help him break free, I asked a simple but profound question:“If you could only speak publicly one more time in your life, who would you want to speak to, and what’s the message you’d want to relay?” Without hesitation, Ron replied, “I’d want to speak to visionary business owners …
Job Interviews: Make a Positive First Impression
First Impressions Matter: Lessons from Two Job Seekers Making a strong first impression is critical, especially when you’re aiming for a leadership role. Let me introduce you to “Carl” and “Sandra,” two job seekers who taught me a lot about the power of presence and preparation. Carl: A Missed Opportunity Carl, a mid-level tech manager, reached out to me for help navigating job interviews. His frustration was clear: “I don’t know what I’m doing wrong,” he wrote. “I’ve been trying for over a year to move on to a position of higher leadership, and I have great qualifications. But I …
5 Practices for Presence & Presentation Mastery
When it comes to presentations, how skilled are you at giving them? How activated and consistent is your Charismatic Presence, the magnetic life-force that draws people into you? No matter where you are in your journey as a speaker or communicator, you’re never truly “done.” There’s always room for improvement, and peak performers know that mastery is a lifelong pursuit. They understand the importance of stepping into discomfort again and again to grow beyond their current skill set. Think Like An Actor And Move Towards Mastery Adopting an actor’s mindset can be invaluable for your journey toward mastering presence and …
Giving an Introduction? Get it Right!
Have you ever found yourself tasked with introducing a speaker or dignitary before they step onto the stage to deliver a speech or receive an award? The pressure to “get it right” in these situations can be overwhelming when all eyes are on you. It is especially nerve-wracking when you are faced with names or phrases that are difficult to pronounce—something many of us can relate to. Take Vice President Kamala Harris, for example. Despite her nieces demonstrating how to pronounce her name during the Democratic National Convention—“Kama” like “comma” and “La” like “La La La”—mispronunciations still occur. It’s a …

















