First comes the dream.
Then comes resistance.
So says Steven Pressfield, author of one of my all-time favorite books, The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks, and Win Your Inner Creative Battles
You know how it is: You have a great idea, an idea so brilliant, so powerful that it slaps you wide awake in the middle of the night. Perhaps it’s an idea for a creative project—a book, a piece of art, a new app. Perhaps it’s a dream or goal that utilizes your special gifts or taps a deep longing—becoming an actor, starting a new business, learning Chinese.
First comes the dream, the goal, the idea.
Then comes resistance.
Resistance is fear, doubt, hesitation. Resistance takes the form of what I like to call Moe and Schmoe, the little naysayers sitting on your shoulders hissing “You’re too old to become an actor!” or “You can’t write a sentence, much less a whole book.” Or, as so often happens with my presentation coaching clients, “You’re going to screw up your speech! You’re never going to be a good presenter!”
According to Mr. Pressfield, resistance is a force of nature, like gravity. It is simply there, like your dream or goal’s shadow, whether you want it to be or not. And it is up to you to prevent it from pulling you down and away from your goal, your dream or your big idea. It’s up to you resist resistance.
To resist resistance, you must DO: Take one step; sit down and write; make that call. Because fear can’t hit a moving target. Action trumps fear. And resistance is simply a manifestation of fear.
Overcoming resistance takes discipline, which is the mark of the true professional. Professional writers get up and write, even if they don’t feel like it. Professional speakers practice and finesse their speeches, even if it feels tedious. Professional entrepreneurs keep pitching their product or service to investors, even at the risk of being shot down again and again.
If you truly want to overcome resistance, you must think like a professional, and choose to resist resistance by facing what you most fear and taking a step towards it. It really is that simple.
This week, notice what you are resisting, and when you are most vulnerable to resistance. What precious dream, idea or goal is at risk because you’re letting resistance take the upper hand? If resistance is a force of nature, like gravity, then consider that to Touch the Sky and realize your unique potential, you have to push against the force that threatens to keep you stuck, stopped or stagnant.
Resist resistance, and make the most of who you are, and what you’re here to do… on or off the speaking platform.
Take a few minutes to journal out the answers to the following questions:
1.What do resist the most? Why do you think that's so?
2.When are you most resistant? Why do you think that is?
3.What that would be meaningful to you could you achieve if you chose to resist resistence?